Kidnappers and attackers love to catch us by surprise, with unexpected things we never see coming, so memorized, pre-planned self-defense techniques become pointless.
Sometimes we are in the wrong place, at the wrong time, something terrible happens, and there was nothing we could have done about it. You ever been there? I know I have.
There is a famous book that said, “Ask and you shall receive…” because when you ask your brain a question, it answers. The problem is most people ask “why” unconsciously to solve problems like:
“Why am I so fat?” or “Why am I so stupid?” and all that does is tell our brains to remind us of all the stuff we eat, and dumb things we’ve done in the PAST. The result? We eat more and read less…
“Why” does nothing to help us think of NEW IDEAS for being healthy and smarter moving forward. A better question to ask ourselves is, “How can I lose weight and enjoy it?” or something like this.
Easier said than done I know, but it is a start to a better life… one thought at a time, you know what I mean? The same principle can be applied for escaping from kidnappers, attackers or bullies.
Asking yourself, “Why is he grabbing me?” or “Why is he punching me?” doesn’t STOP the guy. But asking, “How can I stop him?” or “How can I can escape?” increases your odds of getting away.
A boy I interviewed years ago asked unconsciously, “How can I escape?” right before he reached out and hugged a clothes-line as the kidnapper was carrying him through his backyard…
The abductor lost his balance, lost his grip, and that is all the boy needed to run break-away. How do you think your children could use this today to become safer, smarter, or happier?
“Why” questions are great to challenge old ideas to develop better ways of doing stuff… But for self-defense in the MOMENT, asking “How can I escape? or How can I _________?” could save your life.
Besides, there is plenty of time to ask “why” all you want, after you or your kids are safe and sound…
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