How could we have known that a convicted sex offender was hanging out at 2 p.m. on a Thursday at this community park? The rub is that we couldn’t have (registered or unregistered).

That’s why I don’t preach hindsight (I can hear all the “20/20″ advice from the experts today like “you should never jog alone”). No wonder victims and their parents feel guilty sometimes.

When our son got Bacterial Meningitis we could hear everybody speculating, “how he got it” (like my wife and I could have done something, his strain was so rare, it was 1 of 14 known cases).

Sometimes horrendous things happen, and there’s nothing we can do about, we’re just in the wrong place, at the wrong time. All we can do is believe what I heard Reverand T.D. Jakes say once:

“Faith doesn’t get you around trouble, it gets you through it.”